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Me, today. 5.3.12. Be Comfortable with Being Uncomfortable

Tonight I danced my little heart out. We practiced hard for the big show and I’ll say, I’m getting nervous for Saturday. We had a practice with all the ladies for the first time since learning the whole routine 4 days ago, and we’ll have one more chance before stepping onto that floor, only one. There was a point where I wanted to pull out, I don’t like going into any performance – anything really – without being 100% prepared and comfortable with the routine. But, I thought that’s just a discomfort with failing, a discomfort with being unprepared. I need to let that go, and so the jitters will go too and I’ll be juuuuust fine. So then I thought, too often we stay with what is comfortable and it stunts our growth. In every aspect of life we let fear take over and do everything to avoid discomfort. Think about it…

Relationships. Most people want to avoid the “break up talk” or don’t want to speak up about what bothers them or what they need, because it’s uncomfortable. They then stay in long relationships they shouldn’t be in. Have you ever done that? Delayed a conversation because you were not quite sure how to have it, and it was just going to be really uncomfortable… I bet you have.

Friendships. Some women will not say how they feel to a friend. Rather than have that hard conversation to whoever they’re bothered by they will instead call their best girlfriend and vent. This breeds resentment and causes drama. We’ve all done it and not done it. And it’s always a relief when we do.

Learning. Most people are uncomfortable with something new. It’s strange, not what you’re used to, you’re not good at it and messes with your regular schedule. Take trying a new sport – climbing. Most women try it a few times, they’re afraid they’ll fall, it makes their arms sore or they just don’t feel as good as their fellow climbers (usually male) and they don’t continue. Even without a fear of heights.

Work. Most women are afraid to talk about their achievements at work. It’s uncomfortable to ask people to send a good note to your manager, or pass along praise, often resulting in women being passed up for promotions.

Alone time. Most people won’t go to an event, a party or a meal alone. It’s uncomfortable because you’ve never done it. True, not a lot of people do. It’s not weird – you see people studying or reading alone at coffee shops all the time. Then why would then eating at the coffee shop, or just sipping coffee there alone be weird? It’s not, it’s just uncomfortable.

You will never grow, change or learn anything new about yourself or the people around you if you don’t do something uncomfortable. Start to get comfortable with being uncomfortable. It’s ok, it’s not going to kill you, and in most cases is not nearly as bad as you built it up in your mind to be.

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