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Me, today. 6.3.12. The 3 Keys to a Successful Relationship.

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What you get as a cake topping at the marriage of 2 break dancers – it was an amazing dance filled evening!

Today I witnessed one of the most meaningful weddings I will probably ever experience. The two people most influential to my love of break dance got married today. Both the bride and groom are my friends, mentors and inspiration in so many facets of life. In loving, respecting and caring for their fellow man, themselves and for each other, in treating life as a gift such that no moment is taken for granted, these two are some of the greatest people I know.

The clouds promising rain descended upon the intimate ceremony nestled at the base of a mountainside overlooking a fountain filled pond. True to their word, a varied intensity rain began to fall from the overcast but stopped just long enough for vows to be exchanged, rings to be placed and a beautiful love-radiating kiss to be had. The ceremony was followed by the groom back spinning and acrobatic acts of power in his tux, and the bride hitchin up her dress and doing some floor work steps. Everyone was smiling, laughing and dancing, eating good food and having the time of their lives.

As I watched the couple dance, heard the words spoken by their maid of honor and best man and felt the lives of every person in the room, touched directly by the couple’s hand I realized something very important…

The keys to a relationship are in 2 parts, the content and the communication or expression of that content: Love, Respect and Inspiration.

Love. You must first have genuine, unconditional love. What does that mean, unconditional? That means that no matter how hard your day, or theirs, no matter the time of distance that may separate you, your love for them does not waver.

Respect. You must respect yourself, the relationship and the other person. Respect yourself enough to ask for what you need, and require it. Respect the relationship as a totally different entity outside of the two individuals that give it life. Respect the other as an equal, in ever way.

Inspiration. Your other must inspire you – inspire love and acts of love, inspire you to be a better person, and most importantly inspire you to work in your relationship now, and towards your future life together.

These three key aspects of a lasting relationship must be facilitated through communication. It is meaningless to have these aspects if the other cannot recognize them. So study your other, understand what they need to feel loved and respected and where they draw their inspiration. Take that and adjust your expression of these things into a way they can recognize and you will forever have their undying dedication. Express your same needs and you will forever be satisfied with the love you share and thus will find happily ever after.

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